My Children: Princess (4) and Superboy (3) have been keeping their room organized and putting away their own clothes since they were 2 and 3. How? With the aid of Picture labels, I labeled all their dressers with clip art of Panties, Socks a car for "by-bye clothes" and a swing for "play clothes". As far as toys I "right clicked" many things from the Toys R Us Site to make those labels. When laundry needs to be put away I make piles near their dresser and usually point out the "play clothes" pile and the "bye-bye pile" they do the rest!
This works wonders! Picture Labels work for me!
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